Anonymous Coward · 2d
correct us if we're misunderstanding but your response to the 14 y.o. "syskid" (not mocking just direct quoting cos we've never used that term) kinda suggested a system should be able to control who's fronting at any given time which we were always under the impression is pretty unrealistic even with a bunch of support/therapy/in-system communication/whatever. like... "you can just not front" sounds very idealistic and hard to imagine for us. you're right that people switch to handle different situations but you made it sound like something a system can/does/should have total agency over which really isn't our experience, nor what we see from others/in research/etc. can you explain what you meant? thank you! sorry for my weird syntax!
the person talked about being a 'potential host' which implies that there's some decision/leeway about who would be host.
many systems have some degree of who is fronting based on intentional triggers or if they have gatekeepers who have some amount of control over who fronts. so not like 'a system deciding who fronts' really.
that all being said yes, with good support and integration and work it is entirely possible and fairly common for people to influence who is fronting via various strategies
