the main difference, as i understand it, is the level of integration between parts. non-dissociative people don’t necessarily “control” their parts either though.

for non-dissociative people, these shifts feel like part of one cohesive self. their behavior changes with context (like acting differently at work vs. at home), but their values, preferences, and emotional connections stay relatively consistent.

in contrast, dissociated parts tend to feel (more) distinct and compartmentalized. they may have separate preferences, beliefs, and emotional ties, often acting in ways that feel disconnected or more opaque to understand the inner workings of to the rest of the system. this lack of integration, combined with a sense of losing time or awareness, makes the experience qualitatively different. so it’s about both the integration and the level of consistent connection across parts, not just “control.” does that make sense?