i didn't mean you were doing it, sorry it came across that way. and i'm not really talking about infighting, but about the general infantilization of some lgbt groups which ignores the bigotry of certain members, like i said racism, misogyny etc. it's a double-edged sword i guess because some people want to support some groups or each other but don't want to see their faults, like sometimes i'm sick of hearing that calling out certain people is homophobia because the person in question they're gay or lesbian etc. so it makes criticizing bad aspects of a community difficult. meanwhile people are always shitting on bi women (never men, because misogyny) and it's something that's never really talked about because i guess ppl are afraid of calling out members of their community and getting called out in turn for internalized homophobia or whatever. sorry for ranting in your inbox i hope this makes sense lol