i didn't mean you were doing it, sorry it came across that way. and i'm not really talking about infighting, but about the general infantilization of some lgbt groups which ignores the bigotry of certain members, like i said racism, misogyny etc. it's a double-edged sword i guess because some people want to support some groups or each other but don't want to see their faults, like sometimes i'm sick of hearing that calling out certain people is homophobia because the person in question they're gay or lesbian etc. so it makes criticizing bad aspects of a community difficult. meanwhile people are always shitting on bi women (never men, because misogyny) and it's something that's never really talked about because i guess ppl are afraid of calling out members of their community and getting called out in turn for internalized homophobia or whatever. sorry for ranting in your inbox i hope this makes sense lol

Ik Gojo was raised with more traditional values and doesn't really show it but sometimes I think it'd unconsciously pop out at times and it'd be a huge source of arguments between stsg, your childhood can find a way of haunting you sometimes yk. Like geto was raised in the countryside he'd obviously have a lot more exposure to traditional values there and i think he was very sick of it judging by how easily he left and the anger that was invoked in him when he saw miminana for the first time (I've always thought it was equal part breaking point as it was trauma response). I think gojo can be demeaning sometimes and he'd probably say something that would unknowingly strike several nerves in suguru. Like "Oh you're very feminine looking for a guy" or smth and it'd bring forth insecurities in suguru he thought he wouldn't remember when he moved to the city yk. And when confronted gojo would sort of lean back to his upbringing like "why are you being such a bitch" yk. Ik alot of people say gojo changed from his childhood to when he met suguru but I think beliefs that have been installed in you since birth can't just vanish overnight. I think they remain there and the people close to you become the exception to the rule and when you're reminded that there can't be exceptions your easiest option is to avoid. I've always thought gojo would have terrible internalized homophobia bc of this

don't like it when people treat lesbians like they're poor meowmeows who can do nothing wrong because it lets slide a lot of the bigotry and discrimination within the community. ntm sometimes a lot of hatred lesbians have for bi/straight women sounds like misogynistic talking points. this isn't to hate on our community btw, it's just i think infantilizing a group of people isn't good, it sounds like the way white queers infantilize themselves and then act like a victim when they're called out over their racism etc