getting married didn't change my day to day life at all. we were already living together and had been for a while by the time we got married so we already had a routine down. are you two already living together? is your partner expecting you to handle the household chores by yourself? are they expecting you to handle child rearing by yourself, too? and you're expected to work on top of all of that? if that's the case, i think it's time for a long, difficult discussion. you should not be bearing 100% of the responsibility in your life and you should not have to lose parts of yourself just because you're getting married. it's a partnership and should be shared accordingly.

i manage because i have a partner and we're a team and tackle things together. when it comes to hobbies and things like that, we both get our own personal time. i wouldn't ever accept anything less.