Brave Anonymous · 4d
Hii, how'd you overcome your defensiveness to media? My SpIn (?) are some underrated games made by a certain dev group, and 95% of the other "fans" of the games are just weird unappreciative people that I feel do NOT understand the characters like me and my friend do. One day I found https://defensiveinterest.carrd.co/ (praying that I linked it properly uee...) and it described me pretty well. I'm not defensive to where I'd HATE if other people played their games, I don't act like I own anything. I properly distance myself from other fans minus my friend, but is that really enough and I'm not being too unhealthy?
Feel free to ignore this ask, I just thought it'd be best to see what you'd say about it!
Well, "overcome" is a strong word, kyahaha ... I am still in the process of growth, dragonfly! However, I think what best helped me was, honestly, my own dreams of making a game / webseries / etc. I realized that as a creator, I wouldn't want fans of my own work fighting over my media and what not. I think you're being healthy enough by blocking and avoiding other fans, but it might help to change your language.
Words have a lot of power. I'm sure you're frustrated with other fans, but calling them "weird" and "unappreciative" forms a bias in your head (I hope I'm phrasing this gently, my intention isn't to scold. I really do understand!). Rather than such strong language, perhaps descriptors that would be better would be "dispassionate", "unenthusiastic", or "quirky"! It relays the same message, but it puts your love of the games first (Emphasizing your enthusiasm rather than putting a point on how you feel they don't interact with the games appreciatively) while not necessarily putting down other people. I hope this makes sense, and that I can help even a little ...
