I like tender and slow. That isn't to say fast, rough sex can't be loving, but I like the idea of guys taking their time to consider each other, soak in the moment and generally just enjoy each other's company.

I like to think of sex as a means, not an end. Where the goal is to grow closer to someone you like and share an intimate moment with them. I think in a healthy relationship, sex is just one of the many tools you have to share with your partner.

Of course, not everyone has sex in the context of a relationship and that's ok, but in terms of what I would prefer for myself, loving is definitely the way to go.