well if it's for research purposes, who am i to deny you, right?

SO. i think cater is somewhere on the scale between nonbinary and bigender. i think he identifies more with femininity in general but he's clearly sort of wary of things that are perceived as being like super feminine/super cute, since obviously his sisters put way too much stock into that kind of stuff growing up. but like... i really liked his jasmine silk personal story bc it shows that he doesn't hate being perceived as soft all the time, i think he just wants to be GENUINE and less like. the front that he's putting on if that makes sense. and tbh i'm sure his gender goes hand in hand with how he presents himself socially and on social media, bc he's always trying to curate this perfect personality for everyone, and i think he minimizes who he actually is a LOT, which i'm sure makes exploring your gender and how you actually want to present as. difficult lol. i like to imagine that he does want to be more feminine but between having cuteness used to measure his worth as a child to feeling obligated to present himself in a way that satisfies the people around him he's like. stuck, basically, as this weird cater amalgamation that is neither who he really is or who he actually wants to be, but the person who accomplishes the goal of making other people happy/feel better about themselves. i have no idea if this made sense, but thanks for coming to my ted talk