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dyl · 3 answers · 6y

CW: dysphoria / a potentially misgendering societal thing.

have you encountered "women + trans" spaces? would you access one? is there a different sort of "safer space" that would meet your needs better, or that you would feel more comfortable in?

Mostly online ones, yea. I don't talk there much though cuz I don't really feel as comfy talking about my experiences since I'm still permaboymoding. But it's nice to hear different stories and experiences and relate to them to some extent! But there's def a difference between a "women + trans" space and a TRANS space & I feel way comfier with the latter. The latter doesn't make me feel that there's a "right" way to express my femme gender.

I've never encountered a "women + trans" space IRL, only online, and I wouldn't personally use one myself. I think that phrasing is based on the assumption that trans men aren't really men, so I wouldn't want to participate in a group like that. The ideal space for me would be one specifically for gay trans men (by which I mean Homosexual Gay, not Pansexual Gay), because I feel like I don't really relate to straight trans men very well, so a mixed trans group would probably not be that useful to me. In general I think I'm in favour of smaller, more focused/narrow groups, rather than larger catch-all groups.

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