I'm not sure how to respond to this but most of all I'm impressed that you can just ~decide~ to ship something else lol. I don't choose the ship, the ship chooses me. i have no say in it whatsoever ¯_(ツ)_/¯

honestly.. no ship is safe from hate. popular ships get hate bc ppl are tired of seeing them or think they're bland or whatever, unpopular ships get hate because they have a specific dynamic that doesn't mesh with some people's preferences, barely known pairings get hate because "lol they don't even interact why would you ship them???". really every ship gets hate because there's always people who think it's cool or fun to be haters. I'm sorry your ship gets involved in discourse so often (i know the feeling) but there's not much you can do about that really, except for blocking ppl who make a stink about your ship and trying to enjoy yourself in your own little bubble. it's what i and many other wrny shippers do, and bc our ship is so often misunderstood we spend a lot of time just hyping each other up and yelling with each other and that makes for a wonderfully positive atmosphere in our little community. it's a big part of why i enjoy wrny as a whole!!

i understand your frustration, anon, but i hope you can surround yourself with people who enjoy the ship as much as you do (and preferably who wave haters away instead of trying to counter or reason with them. i get the urge but ultimately it's better for everyone involved to just let the haters fume) and who support each other in a way that makes your love for your ship grow, not shrink. ppl often say "don't let the fandom ruin your enjoyment of xyz!!" but the reality is that it often does take a toll on us no matter how much you try to ignore or avoid it. people join fandom for a sense of community, to find people who like something as much as they do, and to instead encounter a cesspit of hate and discourse is, well, discouraging!! shutting yourself off from fandom completely is one way to go about it, but that would probably just make me feel insanely lonely with my interests, because i thrive on being able to share my ideas and interact with people who have the same brain, so to say. over the years of being in fandom i learned to focus on the positives, but that takes practice and also a lot of luck. it's hard, especially when everyone around you seems to want to yell about the things they think are shit!!

so yeah, i feel you. i hope you can find a way to enjoy your ships in a way that works for you, because in the end it would be a shame if you let the vocal minority of haters spoil something that you love 💕