nonny · 9mo
this is a random question sorry but I just need a second opinion. would you find it weird that I don't want to be in contact anymore with my alt-right, polanski apologist/"there's nothing wrong with having sex with a consenting 16yo" father?? because i really don't feel comfortable being in contact with him but my mother is pressuring me to talk to him anyway, and my father himself always makes himself a victim when i don't answer to his texts which makes me feel very bad and idk i feel overall very uncomfortable about this situation. I'm an adult if that matters. it's not like he has ever been there for me anyway so it's not like I am betraying a deep bond we had or whatever, we barely ever talk, but just because i'm his child i'm supposed to be available whenever he wants or i'm an ungrateful bitch. like for example i would always call him on his birthday and we met up maybe once or twice a year but i really don't want to have to call him anymore but i'm scared lol
!? THIS IS ALARMING, why is your mom not alarmed by his opinion?
i am a huge proponent of cutting off awful family. (i do know not everyone can do it, but since you already have started that, i assume you can i.e. financially). anyway, no, i don't find it weird, boot that man out of your life! men need to face consequences for supporting other abusive men, and you have no obligation to remain in contact with someone who excuses child predators. it doesn't make you ungrateful. your parents chose to bring you into the world, it was their duty to support you as they did for 18 years -- you don't owe him anything for it, especially if it's not like he was a stellar parent in the first place!
my advice is to just remain firm and repeat your position whenever your mom (or anyone else) bugs you about it. you're an adult and can make your own choices, and you don't have to explain them.
