litol catto · 3mo
Delilah, I'm sorry if this overstepping but I'm currently in a fight with my boyfriend, and based on what you've shared on your timeline I think you might be able to help. Whenever we argue, he always apologizes right away. At first, I thought this was a good sign, but now it's become a pattern that really frustrates me. He doesn't seem to want to acknowledge his mistakes and just jumps straight to an apology. Yesterday, he told me that we keep fighting because I always bring up even the smallest mistakes he makes, even though he's already apologized. After that, he stopped talking to me, and now I feel really guilty. What should I do?
hello, i hope peace has found you when you read this. i want you to understand first that what he just did is a ‘gaslighting’ where he put you in the guilty seat in order to avoid his own guilt. me personally, i do condone you to take a time for yourself, be it a day or two, before you decided to confront him again. i hold no right to judge but if he always react that way if any problem arise, maybe you need to approach him differently. try to ask him, why are you behaving that way? or is there any reason you always avoid conflict? try to find the reason behind his behavior. after he seemed to calm down then proceed to share with him your feelings. that is all i can say about this because i am no therapist or whatsoever, i hope this might help.
