a curious little mouse · 19d
do you have any advice for someone, who is wanting to make friends with similar sensibilities and interests… i feel so alienated in my current irl friend group… many many normies T_T
I'm going to be honest with you, I have never been in your position and I'm not familiar with how people wind up in this position..... but I also don't really have an IRL friendgroup outside of my roommates (who are similar to me as artists).... I don't have normie friends because I don't have an interest in normies or acting like a normie or getting to know normies ... it must be a result of other things that I don't have going on in my life.... I'm not fit to give advice on it probably. I think whatever in life lead you into this predicament is just not one I have or could ever wind up in .... maybe don't talk about normie things with normies ???????????? is that how it works? Why would normies be talking to you ? Why would you talk back ? is it a coworkers thing or peers in education ?? professional ?? I'm trying not to be mean or presumptuous!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry I don't know how this works
The 1 thing I will say is that saving and paying (or splitting) for my 1 horny friend to come visit me personally was 1,000,000 times more valuable than knowing 5 people who were in my vicinity.... like what, in HS? and they were honestly also not 'normies', or at least my behavior (????) fosters people discussing porno with me, so we would browse /d/ together on my friend's Wii ... I was discussing shota doujins with my IRL friend group even in MS/HS TT_TT ?? when would normies have gotten into my fold I don't know .... I don't engage normieness except to a cashier or doctor.... I don't do that in my free time ....
I also think conventions are a good place to meet people IRL and test the waters with less safety risk than inviting people straight to your house. While I met Bird online, I met him IRL on my way to a convention, and we hung out at that con together, for our first IRL experience. Then we knew the chemistry was good, so we shifted to direct visits. Even if I could only afford once every 4 months or something, it was much more valuable than anything else I could have been doing....
I'd just uhmmmmm foster a strong presence online that is earnest and reach out to people like you and ghost everyone who won't understand
