I was on OKCupid for a couple months. It was right after I came out as trans. At the time they just allowed people to state they were straight, bi, or gay and there were not a lot of trans people on it at the time. So, I said I was bi. I had no idea how to approach messaging people because I had no idea who would and wouldn't be offended just by my presence if I tried to interact with them. I was scared to message gay cis women (and none of them ever messaged me), so I messaged a few bi cis women. None of that turned out, most of them were nice tho. Two of them told me they thought we could be good friends. The whole friend thing didn't turn out either, though, they never responded to me again. Mostly I got lots of messages from dudes that fell into three categories, verbal abuse, ignorant questions, and novice fetishists. The verbal abuse ranged from mild to h o l y p h u q u e, s o n. The guys who sent it also seemed to fall into three categories: guys who looked at the thumbnail of my picture and thought I was ugly and wanted to tell me so, guys who looked at the thumbnail of my picture and thought I might be OK until they learned I was trans by READING my profile, and guys who had not read my profile and didn't realize I was trans (somehow) so they would start civil conversations with me and then flip out when they did read my entire profile. I thought I might avoid this last type of person if I made "I'm trans" the first thing I said about myself on my page. Doing that felt sort degrading. I didn't do it originally because there are more important things to say about myself, I thought. I didn't want it to seem that I was advertising that as a feature, rather than just as a fact. I was looking for people who would feel the same, too. I deleted shortly after that.