Potato salad with hot hotdogs and cold beer. That is our ultimate custom here. It is the basis for festive drinks like glogg, champagne or red wine or scotch. Why, I hear you say, must we be drunk to experience x-mas? Simple. The burden of making everybody happy and feel loved is more than anybody can manage. So relax and lower expectations and be easy and lovely and balanced. Do not shout at children to wash and be neat. Sit down and play their games. You'll find this more x-massy than anything else.