It was pretty much drilled into me that if I did that I would be labeled a “volada” (nice way of saying some’s a hoe), and I so very much wanted my mother’s and society’s approval so I didn’t do anything that’s too forward. I was simply polite, engage in conversation and follow their lead. It would look a lot like when you simply value someone’s friendship. My husband was taught the same by his mother so for months I simply thought my husband was only interested in me as a friend.