I'm trying to figure that out too, there's a love triangle among my friends - two are in a relationship that is in big big trouble and I'm expecting the 'we broke up' text literally any second plus one of them is having an affair with the third and I kind of have a separate relationship with all of them, mostly I've been staying out of it but sometimes they want to talk and really I think listening is what they want/need more than anything, not necessarily solutions or profound wisdom or whatever