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Can we fall out of love without pain, without being hurt?
Only If you intend to be a cold-hearted robot. But then again cold-hearted robots don't develop a feeling of love to fall out of.
I think Nihilism would also prevent you from building up love and extending it to others. The novel "The Stranger" by Albert Camus made me think so.
"A minute later she asked me if I loved her. I told her it didn't mean anything but that I didn't think so. She looked sad. But as we were fixing lunch, and for no apparent reason, she laughed in such a way that I kissed her."
- The Stranger by Albert Camus
Yes I think
We tend to go into relationships for all the wrong reasons, and as a result we're too demanding of the other, too possessive of them, we expect them to make us happy and I don't think that's their rightful job. Maybe we got into relationships for the right reasons then breakups would be friendly and non-hurtful? I don't know. 'Just me' makes a good point, they become a part of you and you become a part of them, so losing them is like losing a part of yourself. And everyone wants to love and be loved, when a lover leaves that closes a major door on the opportunity to do that. I can see how it might cause grief even in what I'd call a 'pure relationship'. But would it necessarily? I don't know. And would it cause as much grief or pain as an unhealthy relationship following the typical social patterns? I think not.
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