Lately, I've been realizing the importance of really tell people what do you feel and what's on your mind verbally. Menurutku, partner yang baik bisa kita ajak diskusi, bicara soal hubungan, dan sama-sama ke arah yang lebih baik.
Ribet, mungkin tidak, tapi apa kamu sudah coba jelaskan sikapmu ke dia nak? Mungkin dia ngga ngerti, salah ngerti, karena orang di sekitarnya biasa berbeda. Coba ajak diskusi dulu mungkin?

Kalau memang sudah janji yang benar2 sampai udah design, it will be both for me. Mungkin aku bisa toleransi kalau memang baru perkataan sekali dua kali aja (belum design), tapi kalau memang udah partneran dan firm, terus dia ganti rencana ga bilang-bilang... ya aku marah sih wkwkwk :")
At least bilang kalau ga jadi

Know your value and know when to stop. Membiarkan dan mengerti akan kondisi mereka boleh, tapi jangan sampai kamu yang capek sendirian. Every kind of relationship is a two-way connection, kalau usaha cuma dari kamu, apakah itu sebuah relationship?

Kalau mau coba diperjuangkan, mungkin bisa dengan heart to heart talk. Coba sampaikan apa yang bikin kamu ngga sreg dll. Tapi ingat ya nak, jangan sampai kamu malah nyakitin diri sendiri terus terusan :<

Hmmm for this. How many times did this happen in the past? Like they realizing and trying to keep you after you wanted to cut ties. If it's already more than once, then no, not 'jahat'.

But if this is the first time, perhaps a bit explanation can be better. Whether they accept the explanation or not, it's on them, but you already gave the closure to that.

Just remember to do things on your pace okay! <3

Hello, dearest. Sorry for the late response.

I'm so proud of you for being so brave in doing this! I know it's not as easy as saying it, but I know you can do it. Stay firm on your decision and please put yourself first as well.

Don't let them gaslight you too! Remember, your feelings are valid. Always remember that you deserve to be surrounded by love, positivity, and the right people who would support you, not bring you down.

I'm so so proud of you and wish you the best always. You've got this! 💖

Waduh.... ku coba jawab dari povku ya :"D

Hmmm mungkin yang pertama kamu harus tau dulu, apa akar penyebab kamu punya comsu ini? Past trauma, pengalaman ngga enak, atau apa? Karena pada akhirnya kita harus berdamai dulu sama yang telah terjadi untuk memulai sesuatu baru

Lalu juga, set ekspektasi yg realistis. Biasanya kan suka lalu mengharapkan pasangan yg cocok klop banget, know that it can be very very rare. If you want others to make effort, you should do too.

I'm not a confrontational person, so if you ask me... I would ask a mutual friend first if there's something happened or if they know anything. I probably will ask them to ask that old friend as well.

But well, I will feel hurt for sure. But if they burned the bridge, it's not my responsibility to build it back alone.

No, it's not childish. Your feelings are very valid on this.

Perhaps they're like me, jokingly on open if someone want to approach them romantically, since it took more than just getting closer to actually open up.

But again, your feelings are valid, dearest. Don't torture yourself, okay?

As someone who is almost 30, we're all still barely holding on. Some just better at hiding it. It's alright, you're on your way there.

It's a bumpy road, it's not an easy road. Messing up is normal, after all we're all human right? The most important thing is that you dont give up.

Don't let other's timeline be your guide. You have your own timeline. Take it easy, take a rest sometimes. I believe you can do it♡

Of course, dearest. I might not be able to fully help, but I'm always here to listen

This.. this is heavy.

Coming from someone who's been in both positions... Yes, it can be true that they're not ready. Since tbh, until now I don't feel really ready and need that one connection first to make sure I'm ready.

The one knowing that person is you. Are they the type that would gaslight or cover the truth? If unlikely, then it's probably true.

But again, even if it's true, you have the power to decide to stay or go. One-sided effort could suck, and remember to prioritize yourself first above everything. Your feelings and wants are valid, perhaps they're just not the one for you.

First one, no hesitation

Karena because adalah is. Tapi aku sukanya teh nder :( /aph

Di Genshin? Kokomi hehe

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