in my perspective.. it is about the intention. love is about affection, comfort, protect, and safety. when you love someone, their feelings simultaneously become yours. as I experienced ‘love’, I generally feel sad when they are sad.. and I am happy when they are happy.

it is distinct from obsession.

obsession comes from the amount of feelings you can or cannot control.. and it must have a safe limit—an obsession could be dangerous when you are too far from controlling it. it could cause harrow the other person.. it could harrow yourself neither. obsession in a proper way could be referred to as love, too.. nevertheless, if it is out of control, it could be a toxic form of love.