I'm most likely to adopt a child that looks like me, because I feel like I'm responsible for raising them to understand the nuances of their identity. I'm not sure I could do that as well if I adopted a black child, for example, but I'd obviously till try. just feels like it is a delicate thing that is easy to mess up. I don't want to erase that part of them but it'd be a difficult thing knowing I'm not the best person for that responsibility