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Jace. · 18 answers · 2y

tw // toxic relationship

What things do you think are counted as toxic in a relationship?

for me when there is no trust anymore, bad communication, selfish, and no cares.

AAaaaAaa i’m not expertise at this, but according to what i have been observing lately.. the toxicity in relationship could’ve something like : lack of trust between one and another ? ___ ? relationship itself built by devotion and commitment along with trust, if a bond often questions or consistently doubting certain of those— and slowly squeezed or even incited ceaseless fear then i might consider it as one : { i’m sorry AJSHHSHA I— i’m bad at elaborating things 😖☹️

when one or both of us don't recognize our problem. I once watched an indonesian movie called noktah merah pernikahan and it kinda represents my first sentence (I do recommend the movie).

the husband avoids discussing their problem and tends to run away while the wife does everything to solve even scheduling a meeting with a marriage consultant. besides their top-notch acting, I feel like I'd stress out so much being the only person who cares to fix everything and having a partner who always thinks the relationship is doing good.

nggak ada penyelesaian kalau lagi ada masalah. kaya left me with too much questions. tiba-tiba love boombing lagi, ada masalah terus diem lagi, begitu mulu siklusnya.

Apaya.. banyak sih, kalo based on my experience itu "toxic" saat disuatu hubungan, kedua belah pihak udah tau ini hubungan udah gabisa dipertahanin tapi gaada yang mau end duluan dan berujung nyakitin diri masing-masing. I think that's counted as toxic relationship..

for me would be cheating, gaslighting, bothering each other privacy, too much jealousy, too much demanding on something. and when I think it isn't comfortable anymore (in rls), it would lead to become a toxic rls.

when one of the parties can't have the essential thing in any relationship they should have as a lover, such as security, comfort, and serenity.

My thoughts saying something that contained violent things I could directly count as that type.

Controlling, manipulating, terus kayak salah tapi gak mau ngaku salah dan malah dilempar ke pihak satunya, telling lies, apalagi ya.

(1) Love bombing; (2) Lack of support; (3) Patterns of disrespect; (4) Silent treatment; (5) Dropping passive-aggression; (6) Possesiveness and isolation; (7) Compulsive lying and gaslighting; (8) Controlling micromanaging partner.

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