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tw // toxic relationship
What things do you think are counted as toxic in a relationship?
AAaaaAaa i’m not expertise at this, but according to what i have been observing lately.. the toxicity in relationship could’ve something like : lack of trust between one and another ? ___ ? relationship itself built by devotion and commitment along with trust, if a bond often questions or consistently doubting certain of those— and slowly squeezed or even incited ceaseless fear then i might consider it as one : { i’m sorry AJSHHSHA I— i’m bad at elaborating things 😖☹️
when one or both of us don't recognize our problem. I once watched an indonesian movie called noktah merah pernikahan and it kinda represents my first sentence (I do recommend the movie).
the husband avoids discussing their problem and tends to run away while the wife does everything to solve even scheduling a meeting with a marriage consultant. besides their top-notch acting, I feel like I'd stress out so much being the only person who cares to fix everything and having a partner who always thinks the relationship is doing good.
playing victim.
When the relationship not get well anymore. Just one person who fight for the relationship. There’s no take and give but give and give or take and take for each person. Also if their partners can’t respect and fill the needs of love for mine. The communication not get well, it always lead to a fight. Or we fight almost everyday just because of a little mistakes. Another toxic is when you get mad and choose to silent treatment your partner, or you didn’t want apologize when you did mistakes and chose to guilt tripping nor manipulate your partner. Another sign is when my partner cheated on me or flirting with others while they still have me. And many more.. i thought relationships is about love, respect, communication, affection, and many good or bad things. It’s all about acceptance and be a better person. If your partner make you feel like you’re the worst of person, then leave. They’re not worth the fight. You deserve more than that.
My thoughts saying something that contained violent things I could directly count as that type.
(1) Love bombing; (2) Lack of support; (3) Patterns of disrespect; (4) Silent treatment; (5) Dropping passive-aggression; (6) Possesiveness and isolation; (7) Compulsive lying and gaslighting; (8) Controlling micromanaging partner.
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