I’ve never understood the whole “don’t speak ill of the dead” thing. If they were a loathsome turd when they were alive, why are we supposed to speak about what a wonderful human being they were all of a sudden? All they did was die. Dying’s easy. Anyone can do that! Unless they died while selflessly rescuing a couple of dozen orphans from a burning bus just before it turned into a giant fireball (in that case: Wow!) then they deserve everything they get. If you want people to say nice things about you (dead or alive), it’s fairly simple: be a nice person and do nice things.