Yes to both, more so on the latter, my unintentional seduction skills appeared to be master class. I mainly discovered them when I was already dating someone else; I guess the moment you no longer care to impress someone you fancy that is when you become most seductive (note: most didn't realize I was in a committed relationship at the time, so I don't believe it was simply a case of wanting what they can't have). Truly boggled my mind -- but also helps one reflect and notice how creepy we can come off when we are trying too hard lol.