Such a good question, thank you Cici. Unfortunately, I have been in this position as much as I have done it to someone in the past as well and I can't really think of a better solution than.. leaving. I am familiar with all the saying "sama kamu sakit tapi gak sama kamu lebih sakit" very well, and it was indeed such a torture way to stay with someone. Trying to help someone can only go so far especially if they refuse to be helped or they keep going through the motion, and it really can be done if they want it too, just as much as you do.