like 3. even if I had the time, money, and people to go with, I would almost never initiate plans to travel. I'm usually the one who needs to be convinced. when I see other people traveling it feels like a weird status move, where they're visiting primarily to just take little snippets of the most grandiose and touristy aspects of the culture/location and post it on their social media just to say "yea, I've been there." and then in a few months it's a "take me back 💕" post so we don't forget they had the privilege to travel.

if I ever traveled on my own accord I'd want to do it in a way that's respectful to the natives and their culture, and chances are I'd be discouraged by the amount of research that takes and then never do it