No thanks, I think it's big incel-energy to claim you can understand or misunderstand someone based on their gender alone. In my experience, anyone who does claim to understand or misunderstand someone based on their gender alone is usually pretty clueless about people in general. They 're people who are often rude, notably selfish, and deeply insecure in some of the worst or most disruptive ways and completely determined to never admit that, so they can never work on getting better.