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1door · 8mo
I'm sorry you read nasty comments but you can't generalize the entire fandom because of one group of people, the majority here are nice, respectful and like you
I'm sorry you get generalized but when you're experiencing the fandom the way I am, it's hard to feel like it's a safe space. I can't Say anything without getting insulted, I can't take a few days of a break without people calling me useless, I can't talk about a member too much or too little, I can't make jokes, I can't tweet too much or too little, I've been told to end my life countless amount of times by this fandom, I've had someone tell me I should have died in a tragic accident, I've had people being racist, homophobic, straight up rude, I've had people being condescending, I've had people accuse me of sending myself hate, and saying I'm too mentally ill to Be on twitter bc I was reacting emotionally to hate, I've had people insult my relationship, people are also doing the same to my boyfriend, seeing people being horrible to eli is also really fucking horrible, people acting like they know me when they don't, people mad I don't follow them back or reply to their messages, etc. and this is in the year that I've been in this community. So I'm sorry anon, I Know there's people who like me but I will call this fandom toxic when in my experience this is what I get treated as.
1door · 8mo
hi spring! how would you say your korean speaking skills are? i know you’ve talked about how you unconventionally learned through watching content, but just curious about your experience with speaking since there’s less opportunity to practice for most korean language learners
1door · 8mo
At the beginning I was referring to your comments, I apologized even though I didn't do anything bcs I thought I was talking about me, I'm really sorry that people are doing this with you
1door · 8mo
At no point did I mean to be disrespectful to your orientation and if I was, I apologize, I just think it's disrespectful to make assumptions and joke about it, especially when you don't know anything, I read some comments today from this fandom that went beyond the point of joking, so that's why I said to be more careful
I am my own person. Talk to me based on what /I/ said and not a hoard of people. You’re putting the responsibility of what the fandom is saying on me. If I had said anything out of the lines like sincerely speculating sure I would apologize but that’s not what I was doing ever. In fact, All I Said yesterday was pretty much this where I specifically even said “he could or could not be”but the hate I’m getting right now is beyond limits. I’m getting called slurs over this for being annoyed at onedoors being hetereonormative and defaulting to “straight”. https://x.com/sapphicsungho/status/1788824271915192383?s=46
1door · 8mo
Things always start with 'jokes' until the only thing they say is this
1door · 8mo
not liking assumptions about someone's orientation doesn't mean hate queer people, I respect, I just mean don't make any assumptions or jokes about it isn't cool
u just glossed over the fact that the Whole reason I was even talking about it was bc someone was in eli’s retrospring being mad saying “he’s not gay!” and assuming he’s straight- which again, Is an orientation. and youre targeting queer people who see queer behavior and Say that it is, mostly light-heartedly. Especially in a heteronormative society, people acting like being associated with queerness is wrong gets on my nerves. You and I both don’t know their specific labels of course but that doesn’t mean queer fans can’t point out when they’re Being Openly Queer. Would you be this mad about people saying they’re not gay?
1door · 8mo
that myungnyangz video is the only thing ive been thinking about these past few hours (every onedoor right now lolol)
anyways hope your finals went well! 🌸 -nat :)
1door · 8mo
sorry if that last question was weird you can ignore it. im 15 and have never really had exposure to “homosexuality” before i got a phone, so i was curious. but i can’t tell if i overstepped
1door · 8mo
idk if this sounds insensitive im just curious/ trying to understand, your lesbian but your partner is gay and said he likes men? so how does that work?
1door · 8mo
Spring, you, as a person with a big account that influences this fandom a lot, should take more responsibility with what you say, you shouldn't speculate anything about j, much less make jokes about it, be more careful...
1door · 8mo
You more than anyone should know that it's not cool to make assumptions about others, really disappointed with you
1door · 8mo
You and your bf should just stop making assumptions and talking nonsense
1door · 8mo
Really disappointed with you spring, didn't expect you to be so ridiculous about this
1door · 8mo
since woonhakfan got suspended, What account updating about Woonhak? please lmk 🥺