There are a couple of free dating sites, the ones I know of are mingle2 and OkCupid, but online dating really is a nightmare because like 99% of the profiles are scammers, and if not that then honeypot profiles set up by the companies themselves. OkCupid seems to be relatively good with having real members, but even it seems to have been getting worse lately.

Even though OkCupid is essentially free, I pay for it so I can see my likes. I forget what the cost is, maybe like $10 a month. They said a long time ago they would never charge for access, but they seem to have crippled the free accounts more and more over time.

I once paid for Zoosk. That was a real scam and a half. They kept asking me to pay for more and more things, like for example after I already paid to be a real member, they asked me to pay another $60 to be able to send and receive messages to/from anyone. That should have already been included! And not only that, after I paid for that, not a single person replied to me (which is unusual for me), so I doubt they actually gave me the capability. After I paid for all the things they manipulated me into paying, it was like over $160. I don't know how representative Zoosk is of a typical dating site.

Well, I'd say whatever you do regarding friendship, it should come naturally. So don't "force" yourself to conform to the 80/20 rule. And who made that rule up anyway? Obviously, each friendship is unique. And to say nothing of the fact that the rule doesn't even make logical sense. If one gives 80% and the other only receives 20%, where did those extra 60% go? I.e., it would only be logical for each person to receive exactly as much as the other gives, so it should be 50/50 or some other pair that adds up to 100, or even more than 100 because of the effect of synergy/positive-sum "games." And one more thing, giving, whether forced or not, shouldn't amount to shoving something down someone's throat...that implies vulgarity, inconvenience, force, deleteriousness. I mean, if you'd have to "shove it down their throat," it'd probably better for them that you not give.

EDIT: Er I mean I know that 80/20 does actually add up to 100, but by the wording it seems to be saying that each person gives 80% and receives 20%. It would be more logical if, for example, one person gave 80% and received 20% and the other person gave 20% and received 80%.