I'm not exactly sure. Not because I'm so goshdang humble or anything. Over the years, I've learned that I'm a bit of an acquired taste personality-wise. Even my loving partner openly says that I have a "strong" temperament or that I can sometimes have a "difficult" disposition. I won't mince words, they've even said I can be kind of jerk. 😅 There's a phrase I like that feels like it fits me: "I'm not nice but I'm kind."

I also do my best to never fall into gate-keeping garbage. So, what am I snob about?

• I have a very unsophisticated palate, but I will point out how our local popular "sushi" is an abomination (it can be fried, have beef and be stuffed full of avocado and cream cheese)

• I don't really know anything about music, but I literally feel sick listening to some Mexican genres that are surrounded by a culture of homophobia, misogyny and toxic masculinity.

• I feel like cringing out of my skull and will constantly hate on what constitutes "successful" Youtubers, streamers and (vomit) "influencers." Raking in millions sometimes, for vapid trash while actual content creators who contribute something meaningful struggle to get a couple views.

• Lastly, I guess anything related to supernatural beliefs, conspiracies, superstitions, "faith" or "spirituality" or even more trivial things like astrology, homeopathy, etc. A core part of me has been learning the importance of rationality. Not that we all have to be Spocks and "logical bros" but we should strive to base our beliefs and decisions on evidence that's as solid as possible. "You must know what is true in order to do what is right."

So, yeah, that's a big one for me. And though I have learned to value people's political/social beliefs more than what they might think about say, an afterlife (i.e: I'd rather have religious super lefty friends than atheist right-wingers) I do admit that I take a couple "respect points" off when someone tells me "I'm a Sagittarius so I'm really X" or they praise their bloody chiropractor.

I can never "respect your beliefs" because I respect you too much to humour you. I DO respect your right to have them and always will as long as they don't hurt anyone.

Umm... grown apart but on friendly terms with it? like, we see each other every day, say "hi" and how we totally need to get together soon and catch up. We're both so busy, though, and like, the pandini and all, y'know? 😅

Up until a couple of years ago, I thought I was pretty boring in that category and my queerness came from being gay and a bit non-monogamous. Then I started to realise (after being a few month on Fedi, big surprise) there was actually more to it in that area.

I definitely don't feel trans or female nor even some flavour of full "They/Them-ness" but I know for sure "cis" is too narrow.

So, I've graduated to Pan, Poly and Demigender, for what it's worth. 😁

Jesus, there are sooo few. 🤭

I guess one I can genuinely say was very helpful was one that honestly wasn't even much of a conscious decision: teaching myself English.

Although that sounds way fancier than what I actually mean which is just randomly deciding to start watching the three US TV channels we got, armed with nothing but 9th grade public school English classes, an English-to-Spanish dictionary and these wits. 😁 I'd almost feel like it was an accomplishment, listening and absorbing the meaning over time all by myself, were it not for the fact that that's how even stupid babies (in English-speaking countries) do it. 😆 Considering I don't have a college degree, it's been a real boon when it came to looking for jobs. So, thanks Past Yuri.

I'll also add another key decision: deciding to ignore the eye-roll-inducing, annoying red flags and agreeing to meet in person this pretentious-sounding local actor whom I met in a not-particularly-wholesome way. (my partner 😝)

Oof. This is pretty hard because, on the one hand, there are several recent shows that I loved but haven't come back to. I mostly rewatch bits or watch a couple of "reactors" I liked. On the other hand, there are a few shows I used to watch a lot of but for very different reasons they... haven't aged particularly well?

• Frasier (not the whole series, just a few particular episodes) - But Kelsey Grammer is a rancid sack of garbage so it feels weird and I stopped going back to them.

• Stargate SG-1 (several episodes. except seasons 9-10 where the show took a huge dive) I used to think it was the perfect sci-fi show, and maybe it's still my favourite because I don't know a ton. However, the first season was ROUGH looking back at it. Still, Amanda Tapping, Richard Dean Anderson, Michael Shanks, Christopher Judge and Don S. Davis (RIP) were such an amazing team.

• The West Wing (first 5 seasons) Again, I used to think it was the perfect drama series, pretty great writing (if you don't mind the Sorkin formula) and performances. Going back to it... eeeeh 😅 It shows its age. It was seen as this liberal fantasy but now it just seems like some centrist Democrat (even worse after Sorkin left) and even some downright problematic details.

This is already too long so I'll finish with some of my forever movies: The Matrix, Jurassic Park, The Devil Wears Prada, The Avengers and The Lord of the Rings trilogy (and why not? the first two Hobbit movies too).

I'm not really into the whole superlative question deal, I don't like picking just one of anything. 🤔 BUT...

I'm probably just showing my age but Gon x Killua from Hunter x Hunter has to be one of the cutest couples, even if it's not canon.

I also had such high hopes for Yuuri (no relation) x Wolfram from Kyo Kara Maoh but the series dragged on for so long I never finished it. I stopped after like, I dunno episode 2387 or something? 😓 Another reason was that I didn't like how it was treated as a stupid goof and Wolfram was just this clingy awful inconvenience while poor "decidedly straight" Yuuri kept going "but we're both men!"

I hope it actually paid off later but there's plenty of modern gay AF stuff to watch to spend time going back to that. If anyone knows if it gets better, let me know.

WOW, am I the wrong person to ask. 😅 Crippling self-doubt and a losing struggle against stagnation is currently on my daily menu. I guess I'd say:

• Music. It has always been a way to transport my mind to a myriad different places. That calms me down almost every time.

• Physical intimacy. It sounds like I'm joking but it's true for me, sometimes climax isn't even necessary, just the closeness is soothing and comforting.

• Again, this might just be me, but "gamifying" chores or unpleasant/triggering tasks. Listening to podcasts 100% works to fool my ND ass into doing dishes, making meals or cleaning. The gamer lizard brain in me looks at that and goes "a two-fer, that's just value right there!" Dividing a task into small bullet points and marking them down like "quest" progression. Stubbornly refusing to do anything until I complete something I just thought of, before I forget, 'cause I will. etc

I don't know if that answers your question and I hope you'll forgive the generic answers but currently it's all I have and it's all that works for me. (Jesus, these things need a character limit, otherwise I don't STFU)