Isaac

dyl · 3 answers · 5y

which, if any, TV shows do you currently follow?

I think the closest thing to a show that I "follow" (as in, watch episodes semi-regularly as they come out) is my WWE nonsense. Otherwise, I tend to watch The Good Place when I see new episodes pop up on Hulu. Otherwise, nada.

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 3 answers · 5y

What's your favourite euphemism for gayness / queerness / homosexuality? (In any language, not restricted to English)

I have a particular fondness for 'faygeleh.'

Isaac · 5y

dyl · 4 answers · 5y

do you get headaches and/or migraines? if you do, what typically seems to cause them?

I get migraines (and vertigo). The easiest-to-note cause is a lack of caffeine, but it's also brought on by fluorescent lights (if I'm already experiencing other ~mysterious symptoms~) and air pressure changes.

Isaac · 5y

dyl · 4 answers · 5y

(full disclosure: I cant remember if I've asked this before or not)

do you speak any languages other than english? + if you could wake up tomorrow knowing 3 additional languages which ones would you pick?

I'm conversational in American Sign Language (though am super rusty at the moment due to a lack of anyone to talk to).

I would love to wake up fluent in ASL, Hebrew, and either Spanish or German. It's tough to decide between them (though I'd probably go Spanish for the sake of it being very useful in my line of work).

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 3 answers · 5y

Are you a fan of jewellery, either on yourself or on other guys?

I really love bracelets and sometimes earrings on myself, or very long, dangling necklaces (which is probably why I want a body chain so bad). On other guys, it really depends on the person. I think bracelets look good on everyone, and in general if you have the comfort and attitude to pull off whatever you're wearing, it'll probably look good.

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 3 answers · 5y

For those of you who socialise with other trans guys IRL, are there any differences in the types of interactions you have with trans guys online versus in person, in terms of group dynamics, the tone/topic of conversations, etc?

I don't really socialize with trans men, directly. Not by choice or anything, that's just how it's gone thus far. I know one trans guy in person, but we met in a support group and largely see each other in that context. But then online, I don't actually talk to anyone one-on-one. It's more generalized void-shouting and responses to void-shouting, so I'd hesitate to consider those "conversations," which unfortunately leaves me with a trans guy shaped hole in my proper social life.

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 5y

How would you ideally dress, if there were no constraints on your clothing choices? By constraints I mean money, body type, dysphoria, social convention, anything that might prevent you from buying an outfit that appeals to you.

This has been sitting in my inbox because I've had trouble thinking of a defined style or a way to describe it, and what I've landed on is a very fat-positive, hard femme style. Fiercely androgynous. I've always been drawn to that style, and I've always loved it on men, specifically. I'd like to bring aspects of it (colors / makeup / jewelry) into a business-casual style, for my professional life, and then get really out-there with my casual attire (I'd love to get some tiny shorts or a tight romper with cute boots and a body chain for summer, UGH).

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 3 answers · 5y

Inspired by the recent birthday of one of our cabal members - do you celebrate your birthday, and how do you feel about birthdays in general?

This year, I'd planned a party for my birthday, but wound up getting really bad anxiety. So I "cancelled" my birthday party and had a "regular Saturday party" in its place, which was really fun and might become a new tradition.

My birthday usually depresses the fuck out of me, but I still like trying to celebrate myself, and that seems as good a time as any. I love celebrating other peoples' birthdays, though.

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 3 answers · 5y

If you were going to be tormented in the style of Tantalus, with something you desired very much being held constantly just out of your reach, what would be the most tormenting unobtainable object possible for you?

My immediate response to this was a little depressing, so I'm going with something fun instead:

The greatest torture for me, personally, would be trapped in an eternal groggy morning, forever getting to the coffee pot just after the last cup has been taken. Over and over, I'll set up a fresh pot to brew, only to find that it's always empty by the time I get to it. Absolute hell.

Alternately, you know those dreams where you really need to use the restroom, but you can't find a single working toilet? That.

Isaac · 5y

Mauve · 5y

How do gender and orientation intersect/interact for you, if at all?

My gender and sexuality don't intersect so much as they are, like, a double ouroboros. They came bundled together in the form of an epiphany I had when a dear friend of mine told me she always saw me as "a very gay boy." I'd been wrestling with my gender and sexuality for a long time before this, being primarily attracted to men but not liking being partnered with them (due to being aggressively "woman"-ed).

I'd tried to be a lesbian, but had trouble connecting with women romantically (and the one time I did manage to have a real relationship with a girl, she had this tendency to... I don't know, speak very fondly of these perceived binary differences between me and our mutual boyfriend, which she rooted in our supposed genders... it's hard to explain without unpacking more than I want to, but suffice to say, it was fucking awful). I was also just... really into guys. When I realized that being both a man, and being attracted to men, was a possibility for me, it was like my soul sighed in relief.

So I think, for me, my gender and my orientation are one and the same. I remember when I first told my partner that I felt more like a boy than not, he said that it wasnt surprising to him, because most/all of the people and characters I'd talked about relating to or feeling represented by up to that point had been very queer, often chaotic, gender-bending / feminine men. And damn, he was totally right. These two identities being intertwined, for me, has given me the freedom to accept them both individually, and has helped a lot of experiences I've had throughout my life click into place.