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Do you guys think someone complaining about not doing work while clearly not doing it is annoying, or wrong of them? if you saw someone who you knew a) complains about work a lot and b) you never see them do work, would you dislike them for it? just curious
I strongly dislike people like this.
it's a different story if they're actually doing work and I just never see them working but if it's someone actively whining about something they aren't even doing then yeah it's pretty fucking annoying, I wouldn't say WRONG of them but i'd say annoying and it'd probably get me to wanna end the conversation quickly.
Hm, not really ... Mostly because I can understand ? I have a lot to do right now, and here I am on retrospring dot net. But I wouldn't be really annoyed, and I especially wouldn't break a friendship over that. I don't feel it's exactly hypocritical. Moreso just .. being.
As an example, I struggle with basic self care. Showering, keeping my nails nice, and so on. And I " complain " about it in a way; as in I want to stop doing that, but I just can't. It's hard to.
And that's why I wouldn't dislike someone for doing that. It can be hard. And I get that.
Just remember that you're trying. Improvement & progress don't come overnight; and just wanting to do those things is progress.
Just be nice to yourself & others !
I'm more interested in the psychological reason why that is. From personal experience there are lots of things I know I ought to do but find myself unable to, and the cognitive dissonance gets to a really distressing level when I am confronted with that fact. I suspect there's some subconscious reason for that, and I don't think pointing out the hypocrisy is the solution.
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