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Spudella · 6 answers · 5y

Are there people who u are comfortable with teasing you or poking fun or whatever u call it? Do you have to feel close to them for this to be acceptable? Can teasing be a form of subtle aggression and dominance?

I guess it can be, but teasing can also be a form of ... I dunno, affection? Fun? Healing? And in some cases gentle correction, at least/especially between parent and child. I noticed that friends tease each other a lot and laugh over it, but I don't really relate to it myself. I think it's only funny to be teased because people's egos are so inflated.

Just friends or people that know me well. I don't like when coworkers I barely know make light hearted comments.

I am used to be teased by people with whom I feel close plus people I did tease myself a little bit and with whom I feel close exactly for this. When I tease you a wee bit and you laugh and like it, I will feel closer to u and vice versa. I remember a little game of teasing and teasing back with a new acquaintance that had lovely results during the night and the next day .. your milage can vary ;-)) but it was just that single instance years ago, so it isn't guaranteed to spark each time.

As long as it is not mean-spirited i don’t mind. I would have to feel close to them for this to be acceptable. I think it can be a form of aggression in which the aggressor can always say, “ oh... but I was just joking... why are you so sensitive?” Making it appear as if you have no reason to be upset. I like to tell my kids that if only one of us is laughing or enjoying it, then it’s not just playing of joking around.

Yeah, people I'm close to, I will tease them and they'll tease me back. It's a way I show affection because I wasn't trained properly :-P

I try to stay away from doing it to people when we're not close or I'm not sure how they are going to take it - in those situations it could be a way of asserting yourself over someone, maybe trying to use their insecurities against them

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