친애하는, claire. asked ⠀⠀ ⋆ ౨ৎ have you ever had a hidden love lan…

i have :]

emrin. · 6mo

love and loathe? i dont think i loathe any love language.. 🤔 setidaknya diantara 5 itu. but, i do feel that ketika aku DIJAILIN!! aku seneng kalau ada yang jail as a form of affection (soalnya kaya, kalau jail kan berarti udah deket banget) TAPI!! aku sebel kadang sampai pengen nangis kalau keseringan dijailin T—T so i love, yet i loathe it!

ayaya 🫧 · 7mo

YES YES YES!!! physical touch is one of my favorite love languages, but at the same time im scared of it... its strange, its like i want physical touch but i cant handle it 💀 i think it probably counts as a love language. it depends on the person ofc, some ppl are very comfortable giving and receiving physical touch, but some ppl arent

Nana · 7mo

it's not that i loathe it. i often subconsciously willing to do everything to help people, but i feel uncomfortable when people do things for me.

alodia zephyr. · 7mo

It's indeed physical touch for me. I don't like people being touchy with me but at the same time I love it when someone I love is touchy with me.

Laluna. · 7mo

tbh same as you, maybe cuz my lovlang is aos and woa, physical touch feels a little uncomfortable for me 😔

Zoe 🐾 · 7mo

I think "loathe" is such a strong word. It'd be too deep in meaning to accurately describe what I'm feeling. But HAHAH I completely got the question. I'm familiar with a certain sensation of love-hate towards a certain form of affection. For me it's AoS. While I'm happy and feel loved when someone serve me out of affection, the feelings come together with guilt and insecurity.

Guilt for when I accept their AoS, I immediately feel indebted to them, and wanting to repay their gentle kindness at any cost and sometimes it's not so as positive as it sounds. I am easily feeling indebted due to the lack of faith in my own self-values, leading to a sense of "I'm not that good, I'm so undeserving of all of these." That sense, is the insecurity manifested, no?

Do I hate it? Not really. Just struggling to receive it properly

Does that count as love language? I think so. Just need to work on myself more, re-establish my self esteem, and be able to love more healthily :)

Won So-ri · 7mo

It's not that I hate it, I just don't know how to respond to it or give the same energy for someone who's strongly have WOA as their love language. I'm not good with words.

Aya. · 7mo

i don't know this one called hidden love language or you just love to doing it but hits a boredom so sudden?

♡ · 7mo

Oh, totally! It's like that with receiving gifts for me. On one hand, I love the thoughtfulness and the sentiment behind a gift, but sometimes I feel a bit awkward or uncomfortable being the center of attention. It's like a mixed bag of emotions for me... But overall, I appreciate the gesture and the effort someone puts into picking out something special for me. So yeah, it's kind of a love-hate relationship with the whole receiving gifts thing, but I try to just go with the flow and enjoy the moment!

친애하는, claire. · 10 answers · 7mo