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What's your onion on the term "daddy issues"?
I think they have real merit since my own "daddy issues" are why I struggle so much with my anger and trust, especially towards religious men.
Not much of an opinion, like Nick says most people have mommy and/or daddy issues. Girls tend to connect with their daddies more, boys tend to connect with their mommies more, so I guess if a girl has parental issues they're more likely to be daddy issues. Also because dads tend to be worse parents than moms. Or, at least, the girl's issues with her father are more relevant than her issues with her mother in the context in which the issue of "daddy issues" is often raised, which is the way in which she relates to guys in general, particularly suitors. The one thing I don't like about the term "daddy issues" is that guys often use the term disrespectfully, they objectify and genericize the girl's issues, probably reducing it to its utility to them and their desire to have sex with her or not to be her boyfriend.. reminds me of the time I heard a guy I knew describe a girl I knew as "damaged goods", I found that horrible.
I think it's true that having a poor, abusive, or nonexistent relationship with a parent can cause trust issues, self-esteem issues, and various other issues that influence how you form relationships with others, particularly if those issues are unaddressed or unmanaged. That's a legitimate struggle that lots of people have to deal with, and it deserves some U N D E R S T A N D I N G from all the people who apparently have GREAT parents. But I think the term "daddy issues" and the way it's used to shame others is some real substandard bullshit. It's usually used to shame women specifically for being what someone has perceived as "too promiscuous." Or sometimes, when people see a woman doing ANYTHING they don't personally like, like wearing a nose ring or blue hair, they'll say something like, "wow, someone has daddy issues." But imo? someone is a fuckin butthole.
Even when a person does have issues with their father it doesn't mean their existence revolves around seeking validation he didn't give them. And shaming and dismissing people for issues their parents caused is pretty heinous.
This, like most onions, makes me cry tears, lol. Usually this comes from men who feel they deserve the girl whom they accuse of this, but get rejected.
Lame copout excuse
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