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Dabria · 5 answers · 1y

What's your action to deal with anyone with uncountable insecurity rant? Not gonna invalidate their feelings but how if they keep coming to you to rant about them being unworthy, insecure, and other feelings which radiate selfless. Negative evergy is so draining apalagi kalo orangnya can't read the room kayak you're also sad terus dia tiba-tiba dateng cerita dengan insecuritynya. Capek anjir tapi takutnya kalo speak up ke dia ntar dianya ngerasa tersakiti dan gaada yang peduli.

Remember, you can be supportive without sacrificing your own well-being. It's all about finding a balance between being there for someone and taking care of yourself.

I tried my best buat dengerin dia dulu, terus tanya apa dia sekalian butuh saran/masukan/comfort words gitu atau enggak (ini dengan catatan apakah kondisi gw saat itu juga lagi stabil, kalo nggak, gw gak akan nawarin ini sih alias dengerin aja). Kalo emang pas udah dikasih tapi dia masih gitu-gitu aja, yaudah deh give them space aja dulu deh. Soalnya bener kata kamu lop, orang yang begini tuh maaf banget kadang bikin draining dan kitanya jadi ikutan bete kalo diturutin terus. Jadi kalo emang kita mulai ikutan bete, jaga jarak aja emang paling bener

Kalau gue tetep ngasih tau sih. Pertama gue bakal mencoba buat feedback, tapi endingnya bakal bilang, "maaf ya kalau feedbacknya kurang. Sejujurnya gue juga lagi kurang baik nih keadaannya. Semoga kita samasama feel better ya. Semangat!" Semacam itu lah. Jadi gue tetep membuktikan kepedulian gue walau sedikit, tapi abis itu minta pengertian dia. Biasanya tementemen gue paham sih. Kalau dia gak bisa menerima itu ya it's simple as they're not a good friend for us. Egois gitu.

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