Daniel asked How comes that many lesbians are more mascu…

I guess the have male features, gay men are effeminate

TimeSplitters · 5y

[09-22-19]

I have a great many ideas on this. Then I'm going to tell you about the black experience, as well as my thoughts on Asians and trans peoples … 😏🙄 …or more succinctly youtu.be/jWI8w9kLAks .

_ · 5y

I can't speak to that on a larger scale, but for me, I was a tomboy as a child long before I knew I was gay. I suspect that, much like gender orientation, gender expression is a complex mix of something that is inherent to you (some say that means genetics, but idk yet) and sociocultural milieu. We don't grow up in a vacuum-- we see what options are available to us as we learn & grow and we use whatever preference is inside of us to choose what we like best.

This isn't a conscious thing I developed for the sake of fitting into a certain role in a relationship, tho. The earliest memory I have of me actually picking out the clothes that I wanted to wear to school was in 3rd grade, and I was 8. I hated wearing feminine clothes. I didn't like acting especially feminine. But I don't think, at age 8, that I was trying to be butch so I'd be the more masculine lesbian in my future relationships lmao, I had NO concept of any of that when I was 8.

At the ripe age of 22 (a few months ago) I finally had my hair cut short after having LONG ass hair all my life. When I looked in the mirror I felt like I looked more like myself than I ever had. And I don't know exactly where that feeling comes from, it's just part of who I am and what I like for myself.

Teo · 5y

I think it's more of a role (or a lifestyle choice to fit into that role) in a relationship. Most gay couples I know there is one that is more effeminate than the other. I'm afraid I don't personally know any lesbian couples to comment. But perhaps vice versa is true.

Pandy · 5y

It is not that "many" lesbians are that way but those lesbians you recognise as such may look like that because lesbians with a "male" role model style are easier to spot than say lipstick lesbians or those indistinguishable from any other woman.

Kate Matsuda · 5y

Same reason gay men are often flamboyant. Their brains are wired the way the opposite sex is, hence their dating preferences.

Alice 💋 · 5y

Reincarnation says that we come, normally, seven times as a woman and then seven times as a man. When you lived seven lives as a man and than suddenly a woman, it doesn't go so smooth often. Anyway that is the explanation Buddhism has to offer.

Daniel · 7 answers · 5y