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Andromeda · 10 answers · 2mo

How do you usually deal with the fact you have been severely betrayed and lied to?

I've ended up protecting myself a lot and having severe trust issue. Sometimes, I just try to not think of it too much

Betrayal is an insidious wound. I prefer to disinfect the pain with the antiseptic of truth. Moving on is the most elegant response to their smelly intentions and actions.

I would see how it affects me; did it disadvantage me? Did it make me feel like a fool? Did it severely hurt me in a way? If it’s not, then I would let it go. I would act like it never happened, and since I’ve been lied to, then I’d be more careful with who to trust. But if it does hurt me and my pride, disadvantage me, make me look dirty, and make me feel like a fool, I would not hesitate to cut the ties, and act like they are dead to me, forever. If we meet later in the future, I’d act like we never meet before, I’d never speak a word about your behavior unless you start it first.

How people behave is never be on my control. Meeting them was only a phase. My life will be bright more beautiful after I passing the darker phase. It's only people, it's only a phase, it's life and it is what it is.

kalo masih baru baru aku sih ya benci banget marah banget. tapi kalo udah lama, aku lupain aja sih atau pura pura lupa. misalnya si A yang gituin aku, ya aku pura pura ga kenal aja sama dia

I don't deal with it since I give zero care because once you betray or lie to me, you are motherfucking dead to me.

I don't deal with the aftermath, the aftermath deal with me. Unleash the hell, sister. That's how I deal with mine. My loyalty and honesty are not a game for people to play, call me childish but every people who did me wrong, I pay them ten times worse than what they already done to me. I will repent in hell.

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