LaDamaX · 10 answers · 12mo
Why do you think many of us feel cringy-worthy when we see or hear ourselves on video? Is it because the vision that we have of ourselves doesn’t match what we see/hear?
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Why do you think many of us feel cringy-worthy when we see or hear ourselves on video? Is it because the vision that we have of ourselves doesn’t match what we see/hear?
I have never really had this problem. I think I truly am in love with myself. I love watching myself
When we see and hear others we get acquainted to them and their individual way. They appear not too different usually from everybody else. We recognise the individual styles and form an image of them in our mind. But we do not get acquainted with ourselves in the same way and we do not see us from outside and we do not see our individuality like we see that of others. Hence our mind forms a different image of ourselves. When experiencing ourselves in video and audio we start the process anew. But it clashes with the already existing image we have. The parameters of self evaluating from introspection differ a lot from those when we do evaluate external persons. So our internal and external face in comparison both look distorted and unreal and alien. The cringy comes from finding that our expectations due to different sets of parameters cover unexpected ugliness, unexpected distortions and unexpected quirks while we lived so far in oblivion that we move like elegant ballerinas only to find out we do stomp according to our comparison. Also we judge ourselves much harsher and more cruel than others do it. We do that because we feel let down and mislead and betrayed by our self made image. But that image is also done by a mirror like the other image one. Only mirrors are different. Who can say which is closer to reality?
At least some of the voice cringe factor comes from the mismatch between what we hear talking live and what we hear in a recording, inhahe lays it out very well...for video, I have no knowledge but I think as video tech improves the cringe factor will get worse - my working theory is that your 4k HD screen picks up more of your skin blotches and wide-open-ass pores than the unassisted eye ever would so when you see yourself on-screen you are like whooooa buddy turn that off!
Narcissistic people don't have that problem, My God!! I'm gorgeous!!🤣 lol I think so. It takes time to get comfortable with yourself in every way. 😊
Part of the hearing aspect is that our voices sound deeper to us when we're speaking than they do in recordings, because we hear it not only through the air but through our own skulls, and lower-frequency sounds travels through mediums better than higher-frequency ones, and also the sound resonates in certain cavities within the skull. I don't know about video, except that obviously when we look in mirrors we only see ourselves head-on. And we don't normally see our own mannerisms and such. Maybe we interpret our own mannerisms uncharitably due to poor self-image.
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