Thoughts on polyamory? (Do you understand it? Do you think you could ever have multiple partners at once? Would you date a polyamorous person?)
shrug di whatever you want.
Not my business to tell people the way they are allowed to love or how many people they should love.
Besides I have a small family in the most traditional sense (female, male, child) I think it is bullshit to praise this arrangement above everything else....
you mean like a harem? :D
I think it's the ideal form of relationship since true love gives the other freedom rather than imposing restrictions, especially restrictions on fulfilling their hearts desires, and especially restrictions coming from fear and ego.
Though I've heard that in practice polyamorous relationships tend to have problems/drama, and I've never been in a polyamorous relationship. I think these problems likely only exist is the context of an immature culture, though.
I wrote an essay that's essentially abut polyamory without saying "polyamory" here: https://myriachromat.wordpress.com/2018/06/21/cheating-fidelity-loyalty/
I am polyamorous
I've never been in a relationship, but idk, it sounds nice tbh. But so does monoamory.
Idk, it's uncharted territory for me, but I don't exclude it.
I personally don't understand it.
I am not fond of the idea personally. It wouldn't sit right with me so I don't think I could date someone who's into poly.
Yes, I do understand it. I have friends who are and I accept it and appreciate that's their relationship style.
Definitely not. There's really only one person allowed in my heart in a romantic sense, and only one. I don't think I could let myself really be intimate (emotionally/physically/sexually/psychologically) with more than one person in that manner. Plus, I already have enough trouble with myself; I think more than one person in my heart would make things just too complicated for me to handle.
I would, but insofar that they're amenable to being monogamous with me. I know a few people who are polyamorous at core, but are in a committed monogamous relationship. That works for them, and that's their choice! Otherwise, if this hypothetical polyamorous person does not want to do such, then I totally respect that.
i dont really understand it tbh. idk, i mean i could have multiple partners at once maybe, but i'm heccing jelous if a partner has other partners. not sure where this places me
This one is hard to answer.
Before my egg cracked I would reply (and have replied before when asked) that I wish I could but I don't think I have capacity to date even one person, let alone multiple. That was when I thought I was a cis guy and tried hard to "fit in" with the heteronormative system. It didn't work super well.
Now things are quite different, but I haven't really gotten used to it yet. Especially since I still don't really have proper emotions, and dating is an area where it's a big problem. I can logically consider if I want to be with a person or not, and often I do, but I don't really feel it, if you know what I mean. In fact, at one point I was wondering if I'm aromantic because of that. So I need to get that fixed first, I hope hrt will make it at least slightly better.
- I do understand polyamory
- I would (at least try to) date a polyamorous person
- Can I date multiple people? I don't know, I need to find out whether I can date one person first (and I don't mean just flirting on fedi)
I would love to have multiple lovers, if for no other reason, If I'm not being good enough they can have fun without me, or we could cuddle pile
I am dating together with a polyamorous person for over two years now, and I would say about myself I need at least three Partners to fully function (I have one currently 😭)
I think that's just the normal state of things and some religions made modern society think it's no longer normal. If you can feel love for multiple people at once, and they love you back, why the fuck should you be forced to only pick one and hurt the others?
If I didn't have so many issues with being in a relationship in general then yeah I could probably date a poly person. I guess it would lower the stress for me because at least I know they won't depend on me 100% and when I inevitably hurt them it will have less consequences. I don't know if I could date multiple people myself because I don't really know what being in a relationship with each of them would really mean, since I have no experience.
Yep. I could date a lot. But I had to practice safe sex.
Poly is pretty easy to understand so sure, as for me I don't think I can ever make it work in a poly relationship. Being with one is difficult for me, and I don't think I could really work with a poly partner.
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I love your essay! I think it perfectly encapsulates it!
Also, personally I haven't experienced much drama. On one hand, I find that polyamory can help avoid it because you and your partners can advise one another in your relationships, and you don't have to satisfy all your partner's needs, they can always look for someone else. On the other hand, jealousy can be a problem, maybe it's why there is more drama, but you can learn to manage it.
So yeah, pros and cons ^^