Merida asked Is it ever a proof of love to let go? Have…

It can be. It's unselfish if we believe it's for the best for their life and wellbeing.

I think it can be, but I get kind of cagey when it comes to saying what is "proof" of love. Because people have different reactions to very difficult situations in their lives involving loved ones. And I don't want to project that love, attachment, isn't the driving force behind a lot of those reactions. Being unable to let go of someone or something doesn't mean you don't love them enough, either. Or at least I don't think so.

But the important thing is, I don't think that "letting go" or rather, things like euthanasia for an extremely ill pet, or accepting a loved one's decision not to pursue treatment for a terminal illness, should ever be called "proof" of a lack of love. That's a guilt-inducing perspective that some people have on situations they simply do not understand, even if they've been through something that seems similar to them.

nefarious yeets · 1y

Lately I'm thinking it's an act of loving yourself to let things go, which would maybe explain why it's so hard for me to do

Sean ⚡🤖 · 1y

I have put more pain upon me than was absolutely necessary just to let her go in peace pretending it would not hurt. I could not say I love you in the presence of her man.

Kate Matsuda · 1y

To me, that quote means don’t try to control the other person, let them be themselves ! not .. let the go roam around and sample the population and then if they come back it’s meant to be.

cLOUD · 1y

Its a type of love to be happy for someone else. But context is key - its might not be love, it could just be a virtuous way of breaking up with someone.

Pandy · 1y

A long time ago, yes. I didn't have much self-confidence at the time, and was just happy that a girl wanted to date me! I hope she's doing well now and is happy.

BobOmbMonkey · 1y

I don't know, but I guess so.

Merida · 9 answers · 1y

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