deep breaths deeeeep breaths Okay. I find the whole ‘shoving-each-other’s-faces-in-the-wedding-cake’ thing bizarre to begin with. Who in their right mind would think that would be a good idea? And why would you spend hundreds of pounds on a beautiful cake to just wreck it like that? And who would want to treat the love of their life like that? In front of all their friends and family?! If he’s shown such little respect for her on day one of their new life together, what else is he going to totally disregard her on? Don’t spend the rent money on the horses? Don’t bring hookers to the house? Don’t shoot heroin in front of the kids? She should be out of there faster than it takes her dress to come back from the dry cleaners.

First of all, and most importantly, the guy is a total fucking dick. How can you disrespect your bride like that? She seems to have made pretty clear that she doesn’t want that specific thing to happen to her (understandably) and he just fucking ignored it to do it anyway, and this cake rubbing shit ist not even funny in the first place.

Does it warrant a divorce? I’m not sure, I think that depends on contextual factors. I think there is a reason for her to explicitly set this hard boundary, because she knows he would do shit to her and now he demonstrated that you can’t trust him even if you make your wishes clear. But why even proceed to marry him if you have this kind of suspicion? If a cake rubbing incidence leads to a divorce you maybe shouldn’t have married at all. But I’m just speculating here.

Tl;dr: he is definitely a stupid asshole; she might be overreacting, we don’t know

I guess her request was pretty hard. I think the guy was inconsiderate at best, or a flaming asshole at worst, depending on exactly how she conveyed her hard request. But I feel kinda bad for the guy (depending), he was just trying to make it fun, he definitely didn't see that reaction coming. But I can understand the bride's reaction too, though I kinda wonder just how in love they were if she's willing to divorce over that. Whatever the case, I think it's a messed up situation and they both lose. Or I guess they might both have won, depending on how the marriage would have been.. lots if not most of them end up going sour, some of them for many years before a divorce if there is one.