LaDamaX asked At what age do you think would be the “perf…

I'm 31, and a few days ago a child asked me for help and internally i was like oh my God don't ask me for help I'm just a germ

So I'm thinking mid-50s may provide the stability

nefarious yeets · 6mo

Mature enough to raise them well. Should in principle have the money and living space to raise kids in a comfortable environment. Its also young enough that there is energy to raise and time to work to fund their raising.

Early to mid 30's for me. I really want to have my finances sorted, a life partner who shares my values on parenthood, and to deal with my deepest parental-related issues in therapy. I still have a ways to go on all that

Teo · 7mo

I've chosen not to have kids, but if you want to have them, I suppose in your late 20s-early 30s might be a good time. That way you've had time to think about it and be mature in your decision, and you might also be more financially stable.

BobOmbMonkey · 7mo

40 because you've had your 20s for fun, 30s for getting everything together + fun, etc.

littleglobe · 7mo

The perfect time would be when you feel it and actually have most of the needed ressources at hand. So the general habit of being pregnant by chance while you are in the middle of exams, job education and while moving out from parents is usually exactly the opposite of "right". When I was a student one of the girls and her boyfriend planned to have that child of theirs while she was struggling to get her mid term exams to become a teacher. She said it was a perfect time. But they were financially depending heavily on her parents, the extra job to be a mum while being a student and wife and doing a job for living plus struggling for a flat to accomodate all three made their mark in her face. It did cost substantial energy and health. I could see how fast she grew older at an unhealthy pace. But she insisted it was nothing. Until their relationship showed cracks and broke up. I think you need some cool plan and not just the romantic urge and want for a family and the idea of an ideal asap. It takes more than just "I'm young and healthy and now's the time and when if not now?" stance. You just do not set for such a journey out at sea on a wet plank in fair weather believing it's a boat and you're the captain.

Kate Matsuda · 7mo

27 to early 30s maybe 🤷🏻‍♀️. I worked with little kids before and seriously they take so much energy, if you have kids when you're above 35... say hi to backaches and it's tiring really. Around 27 people's brains is completely developed(usually the brain completely developed around 21-24 yo if I'm not mistaken) and hopefully around 27 most people are financially stable. But that's just my opinion...

Birdie · 7mo

I would never choose to have kids.

Another year of fighting to get a hysterectomy hear we go again. 😅

Shannon. · 7mo

Well I'm already blowing past this age😆 But I'd say early to mid 30s. I feel you're mature enough, and financially you'remore set (generally)😁

BidenLadysMan · 7mo

For me, early 20s. I was more energetic, body would have bounced back quicker, I used to love playing with kiddos back then… AND…. I’d be free of responsibility by now and ready to enjoy me time!